When couples start counselling, many say their goal is simple: “We just want to be happy again.” But happiness can be tricky to define. We want to be able to have a clear goal so we know where we're headed. What does “happy” mean to you and your partner? Does it mean going back to the excitement of when you first started dating? The closeness you felt before the kids came along? Or is it about creating a new version of happiness that fits your lives now?
If you find it hard to articulate what happiness looks like, you’re not alone. Many couples struggle to put this concept into words. One way to start is by brainstorming or imagining what a happy relationship might look like for you.
What happens when things are going along smoothly and you feel connected? Think about the moments when your relationship feels easy. Maybe it’s laughing over dinner, putting your phones down while you're chatting, working as a team on house projects, or having meaningful conversations after the kids go to bed.
What does happiness feel like? Picture the energy in your home when things are going well. Is it calm, supportive, or full of laughter? Happiness often isn’t about grand gestures but about the everyday moments where you feel connected and valued.
What’s your ideal vision for the relationship? If you could wave a magic wand, what would change? Is it about feeling heard and understood? Spending more quality time together? Or resolving conflicts without them turning into arguments?
At Brisbane Couples Counselling, we help couples uncover what happiness means for them. This process often involves improving communication, rebuilding trust, and understanding each other’s needs. Sometimes, couples discover their vision of happiness has evolved—and that’s okay. Counselling provides a space to redefine what happiness looks like for your unique partnership.
If you’re ready to take the first step toward happiness, we’re here to help. Call 3876 2100 or email info@brisbanecouplescounselling.com to book a session today. Together, we can work toward a relationship that feels fulfilling, connected, and yes—happy.
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